Figuring Out Celibacy

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This month marks two years since I last had sex!! And, no, I did not make a purity pledge, or become a born-again virgin.  In this episode of Figure Out Your Life podcast, I discuss celibacy and share some of the benefits and drawbacks of celibacy, tips for abstaining from sex (without wearing a chastity belt), and the importance of self-pleasure.  

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Figuring Out “Shouldology” (In Order to Move Past Your Expectations to Accomplish Your Goals)

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There are lots of things in my life that I think SHOULD be a certain way---I should have a higher paying job, I should be in a loving romantic relationship, and I should be 50lbs lighter.  However, focusing on the “shoulds” has rarely helped me accomplish my life goals. More times than not it has led to toxic self-talk, a distorted self-image, and debilitating depression.  In this episode of Figure Out Your Life podcast, I discuss “shouldology,” which (if it were a real behavioral science) would be the study of a desirable or expected state, and share tips for moving past your “shoulds” towards embracing your reality and accomplishing your goals.

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Figuring Out How to Take a Road Trip with Friends

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I believe there are three major events that can make or break any relationship---weddings, funerals, and ROAD TRIPS. The unpredictability of road travel can bring out our best and worst qualities. In this episode of Figure Out Your Life podcast, I discuss some of my road trip adventures with friends and share tips for planning and taking a road trip with friends (without ruining your friendship). 

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Figuring Out How to Make New Friends as a GrownUp

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Making new friends as an adult can be awkward, and sometimes very hard when you are new to a city, workplace, or group. In this episode of Figure Out Your Life podcast, I discuss the beneficial effects of friendship and share 7 tips for making new friends as a grown up. 

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Figuring Out How to Be a Great Wedding Guest

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You’ve been invited to a wedding...now what? Before you do anything, let me give you the 411 on wedding guest etiquette. There’s more to attending a wedding than getting dressed up, trying to catch the bouquet, and dancing all night long---as a guest, you have some responsibilities. In this episode of Figure Out Your Life podcast, I discuss my most recent experience attending a friend’s wedding and share my Dos and Don’ts of being a great wedding guest. 

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Figuring Out When To Stick With Something And When To Quit

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I quit my teaching job two weeks before the school year started, despite not having another job lined up. And, it is the best decision I could have made for myself professionally and personally. In this episode of Figure Out Your Life podcast, I discuss why I decided to quit my job and explore the question many of us ask ourselves: How long should I stick with something---and when should I call it quits?  

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Figuring Out How To Learn A Second Language

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Today, speaking more than one language has become increasingly important for education, work, and travel. In this episode of Figure Out Your Life, I discuss learning a new language with Dr. Aisha Z. Cort, and she shares with us tips and strategies on getting started on your own language learning journey from her experiences as a multilingual speaker and language coach. 

Dr. Cort is a Cuban-Guyanese-American Spanish speaker from Boston, MA. She received her undergraduate degree from Yale University in Spanish (2005) and earned her Master’s and Doctorate degrees from Emory University in Spanish Literature (2009, 2010). She lives in  Washington, DC and is currently a full-time lecturer of Spanish at Howard University. Her company Hey Dr. Cort! offers a number of services that allow you to take control of your language learning journey on your own time, including a Viva La Lengua: 4 Weeks to Conversationally Fluent Spanish course and cultural immersion trips to Havana, Tulum, and Barcelona. 

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